Couples Therapy

You’ve Lost that Loving Feeling

The Tension is Palpable

There are few things worse than pulling into the driveway after a long day of work and feeling your stomach tighten as you start to wonder how the night ahead will go.

You prepare yourself to ‘keep it light’ and pretend the unresolved argument from the night before didn’t happen. Bringing it up will start the fight up all over again, and you don’t want to go there.

Strained politeness or avoiding each other have become your go-to strategies. You feel like you’re living in a war zone, and it’s exhausting.

How Did We Get Here?

You used to love each other and tell the other person everything. You had so much fun together and hated being apart.

Now you can barely be in the same room without getting annoyed or feeling like everything you do is wrong. This is no way to live. Trying to talk about it seems to make things worse, but ignoring it only fuels resentment.

The loss of your best friend is heartbreaking. You long for those days you could talk for hours and share all the details of your life. Now, every conversation is filled with conflicts about finances, kids, goals, and the rest. Life has become so stressful, and you just aren’t on the same page anymore.

How Do We Turn Things Around?

Committing to couples therapy is the first step to restoring your relationship together.

You need a place away from the day-to-day stressors, that offers uninterrupted time to focus on each other with the support of a trained therapist.

It’s time to create the path back to a fulfilling and loving relationship. Learn the skills to build your partnership back stronger than ever.

I Can Help

I work with couples using a combination of Imago and Gottman relationship therapy approaches.

Childhood feelings of being abandoned, criticized, neglected, or conditionally loved often get re-experienced in relationships, giving rise to resentment and conflict. Over time, that sense of “it’s happening again” starts to drown out all the positives the relationship offers.

I will help you identify the patterns creating pain and frustration now and how to communicate more openly and effectively about what’s happening. Better communication fosters less defensiveness and more empathy for each other. As you learn to recognize triggers, you’ll be able to de-escalate conflict before things turn hurtful and destructive.

Learning these skills will strengthen your relationship, foster more trust and intimacy, and give you the tools that make all your relationships more rewarding. I can’t wait to help you bring back that loving feeling.