Grief and Loss

The pain is still there.

You wake up in the morning, and for a brief second, everything is normal. Then like a wave, all the painful feelings come rushing back, and you remember with horror that your life will never be the same.

Life feels unbalanced, without routine, and like you’re in constant free fall. You continue as best you can, but your existence is drab and gray, sapped of all color and energy.

You end up just going through the motions with little joy or motivation, playing the part of someone who looks like you but is only a shell of who you used to be.

The rest of the world keeps moving, but you’re stuck.

In the beginning, you had lots of support. Friends and relatives offered to help with whatever needed doing. There were decisions to make, and it was easy to stay busy and distract yourself from your new reality.

However, as time passed, everyone eventually returned to their lives as they were. Except for you.

You are left alone in the void the loss has created. Since it’s something that can’t be fixed, it’s hard to know when to seek help.

Grief is complicated.

There is no right way to grieve.

Grief is unique to everyone and involves the specifics of your current loss as well as previous losses an individual has experienced.

If the people around you are asking questions about when you’ll move on or why aren’t you doing what you used to do, it may be that they don’t understand the complexities of what you’re going through.

How seeking therapy can be helpful.

• If everyone has moved on and you need a safe place to talk about the loss. As time progresses and the people around you move on, it’s common to grow more self-conscious discussing your pain.
•  If others aren’t talking about it. At times, families deal with loss by avoiding the topic entirely. Therapy can be a safe place to talk if those around you aren’t willing to have the conversation.
• If others do not acknowledge the significance of the loss. Sometimes others don’t see the loss as consequential and expect you to move on before you’re ready. This can occur with the loss of pets, distant relatives, people who are older, breakups with a partner who was deemed “not good for you,” illnesses, disabilities, abandonment, rejection, and any number of other difficulties.
• If you feel you must be strong for everyone else and need a place to be honest about what you are going through.
• If you notice that you are not over losses from the past and need help moving forward.

I am here to help.

I can’t promise I know exactly what you are going through. But I can provide a judgment-free space for as long as you need it, where we respect your grieving process.

And when you are ready, we’ll explore how to create a fulfilling life that incorporates and honors your loss while allowing you to live fully. This journey is different for everyone and can take time.

I invite you to call me today and get started processing the grief you’re experiencing.